- What annoys me also annoys everyone else.
- What doesn’t bother me shouldn’t bother anyone else.
- If I need time to process things, so does everyone else.
- If I don’t need time to process, then you shouldn’t either.
- When I know the right way, I should keep pushing until everyone acknowledges that my way is right.
You get the idea.
How can we step outside our own way of feeling and thinking and see other’s points of view? Yet in the midst of trying to understand others, how do we still be true to how God has wired us and also hold fast to our beliefs? These are questions at the heart of living love when we disagree. One thing that has struck me lately is an observation someone made at a conference I attended a few weeks ago. The speaker said,
“Jesus proposed truth, but He didn’t impose it.”
He pointed out that Jesus didn’t force himself or his gospel on people. He offered it like crazy, but He didn’t impose it. Listen to these words in John 7:37-38, “On the last and greatest day of the festival, Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, ‘Let anyone who is thirsty come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.'”
Jesus didn’t tie people up in straight jackets and pour his water down their throats. He didn’t impose His love, His truth, or His life. Instead he offered it. He proposed a new way to live in total dependence on God. He proposed humility, freedom, and forgiveness for whoever would believe in Him and follow Him.
As His followers, we can learn from His way. We live love by proposing our beliefs, our way of thinking, and our feelings. However, we shouldn’t impose them on others. Instead, we listen with understanding. We explain our perspectives, but we don’t get angry when others see things from a different point of view.
Just last night I wanted to make a point and get my husband to agree with my opinion. I went too far… I wanted him in a straightjacket so I could pour my water down his throat. Even over the littlest thing like what noises are annoying to most people. Don’t laugh… I bet some of your fights are silly too. Right?
Let’s learn to propose like Jesus. To offer a thirsty world the best water – whether its those in our own family, our community, or even strangers on social media. When others prefer not to drink our water, we don’t have to keep pushing our way. Instead we continue to freely offer and live love… especially when we don’t see eye to eye!
I hope you’ll remember today that Jesus is proposing to you! He invites you to drink His satisfying water as you walk through the ups and downs of life today. Say YES!
Hey friends – this week First Corinthians: Living Love When We Disagree was released! My publishing house put the video for Week One of the study on Youtube so people can check it out before purchasing. If you have friends that might be interested, feel free to let them know they can preview an entire teaching session here: